Trying to find porn that doesn't compromise on your personal values is tough. The mainstream sites hardly prioritise female empowerment - if anything, quite the opposite.

Often women are degraded, virginity is fetishised, and the overview outlook is catered to the straight male gaze.

Ethical porn is very different. It's paid for, which means it's safer for your device but more importantly, suggests performers are treated and paid fairly. The storylines are more female-friendly too, with any domination or submission being clearly consensual.

You might not have ever heard of it or know where to go, so we've put a handy list together to take out the guess work. If porn sites have always been off-putting or felt taboo, ethical porn is likely to make you feel much more at ease.

These are our top places to look for a self-pleasure session that don't make you feel morally gross afterwards.

Lust Cinema

Erika Lust, is a filmmaker championing what it means to be creating feminist and ethical porn within the industry. Lust explores "intimacy, love, and lust in sex,” in her films, which she shoots in a considered, cinematic way prepares popcorn. Lust also features diverse bodies, genders, ages, and racial identities… can we get a hell yeah in here please? https://lustcinema.com

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Make Love Not Porn

Cindy Gallop an advocate for portraying what sex really looks like IRL. Make Love Not Porn is a platform to show real sex among real people giving us LIFE (and body confidence) for not looking as slick as the contrived porn we have all been drip fed up to now. Couples willingly submit videos of themselves having sex, where half of the money will go back to the stars themselves. Make Love Not Porn encourages you to support their “battle to build the Social Sex Revolution”. #needed https://makelovenotporn.tv

SPIT

There is no one size fits all to sexuality and SPIT’s content confirms that the best porn should reflect this. SPITs content is dedicated to creating consensual, equitable, and intersectional feminist spaces in the sex industry. Which is why we should all be willing to pay the joining fee to ensure this practise continues.https://spit.exposed

Bellesa

At Bellesa, women can view sexual content that celebrates women as subjects of pleasure not objects of conquest, in an unscripted, inclusive way. Bellesa is also a platform aimed at helping women understand, explore and fulfil their desires freely in a community of like-minded women, meaning they really value and respect what women have to say. FI-NALLY. https://www.bellesa.co

JoyBear

JoyBear pride themselves on promoting complex, strong, interesting female characters who are respected and paid fairly. Not only this, JoyBear has been making sex-positive erotic films since 2003, why have we not heard about this sooner? JoyBear want us to see a “world where sex is positive and not taboo” and their platform is a safe space to explore, enjoy and most importantly have fun removing the fear of not being perfect during one of life’s greatest pleasures. Memberships are £25 for 30 days, or £50 for 90 days access. https://www.joybear.com

A Four Chambered Heart

Some porn can be an acquired taste wiggles eyebrows tentatively, however if you like yours on the artistic side (we are pleased to announce that this is a thing) then A Four Chambered Heart offers stills pretty enough to hang on your wall and short films which make you forget you’re even watching porn - if you’re not already busy enough with ermmm… you know, getting off to it. https://afourchamberedheart.com

PinkLabel

PinkLabel can definitely be described as one of the most inclusive platforms for sexual content that we have gracing the internet right now and we are appreciating it hard. Welcoming stars of LGBTQ+ community, people with disabilities, people of colour, are all a huge part of PinkLabel’s community. To access Pink Label all you need to do is register for free to rent or buy films at your hearts content. https://pinklabel.tv

Bright Desire

Sex is about connecting and Bright Desire values this when releasing content on their platform. Focusing mainly on realism, intimacy, connections and laughter within partners during sex, and hey who doesn’t want to witness couples truly enjoying the experience? Bright Desire’s scenes feature real-life couples, meaning mutual consent and respect, making Bright Desire a great source of ethical porn. https://www.brightdesire.com

Lightsouthern Cinema

If you are looking for porn to empower you to celebrate yourself(sign me up pls) Lightsouthern is for you. The cinematography, camera work and the nostalgic storyline (based on the sexually explorative period of the 70s) can easily be confused as an indie short and not the artistic porn it so apparently is. Lightsouthern Cinema is one-stop shopping for those who wish to be sexually empowered (and I imagine that is a big yes) after watching authentic and explorative content. https://www.lightsouthern.com/cinema/

Dipsea

Porn doesn't have to be visual - sometimes all you need is saucy audio to get you off, and this is where Dipsea comes in. Think of it as a sensual approach to porn. Working purely through sound, the app has hundreds sex stories for you to pick from, so you can hear the build up between those involved and the sound of them having sex. They call it: "Stories and guided meditations". You can get a free trial to check this style works for you. https://www.dipseastories.com/

Afterglow

Afterglow is a newer platform that promises high quality erotica with a focus on depicting pleasure for all those involved in the footage. Content is coming soon, and you can sign up to hear as soon as it does. https://www.xoafterglow.com/

Dreams of Spanking

If spanking is a kink for you, this platform ensures those involved in filming consent and are treated with high moral and ethical standards. Pandora Blake runs the site, who's a UK spanking performer and sexual freedom activist. https://dreamsofspanking.com/

Lustery

And last but by no means least, Lustery. The home of real life partners, filming their sex lives, behind closed doors. Lustery caters for a community of people who enjoy watching real intimacy and emotion in porn making. It’s authentic, consensual and shows the joy of real pleasure. https://lustery.com

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